This follows on my post Family Rules.
My parents’ thoughts and comments on body size, shape and consistency were not always about themselves.
If I gained any amount of weight, both my parents would comment on it. “Oh, I see you have put on some weight.” My mother was also fixated on my hair. It was too short, too long, too curly, too straight.
She was also very vocal about other people being ‘too something’ in terms of their bodies. Intellectually, I knew this was her poor body image coming through as projection. Emotionally, it stung when it was directed at me and exasperated me when others.